wife vs husband in 'The Picture of Dorian Gray' by Oscar Wilde
the only way a woman can ever reform a man is by boring him so completely that he loses all possible interest in life(...)But she would have soon found out that you were absolutely indifferent to her. And when a woman finds that out about her husband, she either becomes dreadfully drowdy, or wears very smart bonnets that some other woman's husband has to pay for.